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Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Three reasons I'm lowering my marital expectations.

Have you ever reflected back on your life and compared your expectations with your reality?  As I wrote my blog last week regarding complacency in marriage (find it here: http://lukeandlife.blogspot.com/2016/07/why-i-occasionally-rub-my-wife-feet.html ), I considered what my expectations of my marital relationship fifteen years ago were versus what they are right now, and I realized that much conflict and frustration could be avoided, and how I can be a better Husband and Father by lowering my expectations. Here are three reasons I'm taking this action:
1.  I am lowering my expectations in order to serve my family better. I want to be a consistent example of what love is.  What better way to demonstrate that than to serve them consistently, with nothing expected in return.  It's not easy, but it's worth it.
2. I am lowering my expectations in order to communicate more effectively.  Many times when I verbalize the expectations I am placing on my wife and kids, I realize just how selfish I am being, and how unrealistic what I expect to be, actually is. I want to communicate better in every way, consistently. 
3. I am lowering my expectations in order to live urgently in the moment. The older I get, the faster time goes by. I want to enjoy every single moment I am granted in this life.  I want to live with a heart filled with gratitude, not with resentment. 

We can do this, together.
Until next time,
Luke

2 comments:

  1. Great writing Luke. This is so true. Love the way we should with no expectations = peace and joy and grateful hearts. Again, great writing!!!

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  2. Great writing Luke. This is so true. Love the way we should with no expectations = peace and joy and grateful hearts. Again, great writing!!!

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